A Birth Mother Adoption Story

I became pregnant at the age of 17. I met this nice teenage boy my freshman year of high school. I enjoyed talking to him and being his friend. I thought that nothing would happen between the two of us. All my friends told me that he was not the guy that I should be seeing. I looked passed everything that anyone told me. We were seeing each other on and off over a period of four years. There were days where I would just sit around and cry because he hurt me so much. To give you an all around outlook of this boy, he is hurtful, not caring, and can be nice to you one day and then a total jerk the next.

I did not realize that I was pregnant for the first 6 months. The only reason why I did not think anything of it was because I was dealing at that time with an eating disorder. When I found out that I was pregnant I was scared to tell anyone. My family and I dealt with my situation as best as possible. My parents had to go through a lot. They did so much for me to feel as comfortable as possible. They got me a home tutor, they loved me, and they also got me the counseling that I needed. There were a lot of emotions with my family and I. The worst days of the pregnancy were having to go to doctor’s appointments with my mom. My mom hated coming home and seeing me the way I was. Many people in my family do not know that I was pregnant. We had to hide this from my grandparents, which was the worst. Trying to hide my pregnancy from people was the hardest thing. Yes, friends and some family did find out, but there was nothing that I could have done from keeping this such a tight secret. The one thing that I regret to this day is not telling my closest friends. I know they would have been there the whole way through. They all understand why I did not say anything but at the same time they were a little upset. All my friends are here to support me when I feel upset, or when I want to talk about it. Everyone that knows has been there to support me.

My mom looked around for an adoption assistance. We all decided on the Law Offices of Todd M. Kolarik Esq. My family and I met with a counselor from the law office. She was so nice and helpful to everyone in my family that needed her. My Counselor took my family and I through what was going to happen all throughout the pregnancy. She is a wonderful person, she helped all of us out through this hard time. You’re scared when you’re so young and you know that you are not ready to be a parent. I picked the family out, met with them at dinner, and have kept in contact with the adoptive parents ever since I had my child. Once we found out that I was having a child, my counselor has been there ever since. The Law Offices of Todd M. Kolarik Esq is a wonderful firm to work with. They take care of you no matter how old you are, they understand what a birth mother needs, and they also understand what you are going to feel before and after you give birth.

I gave birth to a baby girl. My counselor and the firm were there to help my parents and I out emotionally, financially, and mentally. They know that the birth mother has a lot of emotions after you give birth, and they also know that it is hard for the birth mother just to give her child away. I love my baby girl with all my heart. I still think about her and I also wonder what my life would be like if I did become a parent. When I talk to my counselor about all of this, she lets me know the positives and negatives of what I would have to deal with if I did become a parent. I would have to deal with the father being a part of my life and also deal with the fact that he has another girl pregnant and being a part of her life. I don’t talk to the father and he is not involved in the adoption. I know some people might say that he should be involved, but deep down he has no idea how hard this was and what I went through.

The Law Offices of Todd M. Kolarik Esq is a great law office to go through. They help you out with anything that you need. No matter what happens or what goes right or wrong they will be there for you to understand what you are talking about. I can’t thank everyone at the firm enough for helping my family and I out. It was a hard situation to deal with. No matter what happens in my life or any other birth mother you will never forget that you gave birth to a baby boy or girl.

My counselor has helped me deal with the ups and down’s after I gave birth. Some days are lonely because I sometimes think when I go out with my friends, or go to school or work, or even when I get out of the car I feel like I am forgetting something. The law office has helped me deal with the emotional stage of the after birth. Like I said I can’t thank them enough for everything that they have done. They help me out a lot. I am still working with my counselor to this day and I am also doing some volunteering things with her and the firm.

Thank you for anyone that reads this story.

Thanks,

A Birth Mother